Have you ever shut down during an intimate moment, only wishing you could stay present instead?
You're not alone. Many people get triggered during intimate experiences—whether it's a conflict with a partner, a vulnerable conversation, or even during physical intimacy itself.
When we're triggered, we lose our ability to stay present. We get lost in stories, project the past onto our partners, and act from our wounds rather than from love and curiosity.
This is where somatic work comes in.
Somatic work is simply: being present and staying with the body's experience.
When you engage in somatic practices, you learn to:
It's about building the ability to remain connected to what's happening in your body—even when it's challenging.
When you move into a triggered state during intimate moments, two major things are happening:
In this state, we cannot observe, stay with, be with, or feel our body's experience. We're reacting, not responding.
But when you use somatic tools during triggering intimate moments, everything shifts.
You'll be able to:
This kind of ability allows you to navigate, integrate, and resolve challenging moments in real time. You'll even be able to receive the healing needed to integrate past moments as they arise.
When you're moving through intimacy with somatic awareness, the opportunity for deeper intimacy reveals itself naturally.
Instead of acting from protection, hurt, and defense, you're able to act from love, curiosity, and openness.
Over the next few weeks, I'll be sharing three specific somatic tools that will help you:
By practicing these tools, you'll cultivate the safety that enhances both connection and erotic aliveness.
These blog posts will give you a taste of what's possible with somatic practices. But real transformation happens when you practice these tools with support—when challenging sensations arise and you have someone helping you stay with your experience.
In my private 1:1 coaching container, Your Dream Intimate Life, my clients don't just learn about somatic tools—we practice them together in real time as challenging patterns arise in our sessions. This is how you build the somatic capacity that actually transforms your intimate life.
If you're ready to receive the intimacy, connection, and erotic aliveness you crave while feeling secure and deeply connected to yourself, learn more about working together.
Next in this series: Learn the first somatic tool—orienting—which brings you back to the present moment when you're triggered during conflict or hard conversations.